A few of the traits bad bosses share are mean, dishonest, lying, cruel, aggressive, selfish and demeaning. Boundaries are not a concept they understand. They build walls, not bridges. Team building does not exist, except by fear.
Can you say trauma? You are in a war zone and it is called the workplace. On-going trauma on your job has a cumulative effect. You can be suffering from PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
The daily stress of working for these people can take a terrible toll on your relationships, mental and physical health. It makes it nearly impossible to concentrate and complete projects. You get headaches, dizziness, chest pains, flashbacks, and you get tense and keyed up. You start to avoid people and relationships. These are a few of the symptoms. If you suffer any of these longer than a month, see a professional.
The atmosphere of the workplace is heavy, depressive and oppressive. A fear of being humiliated or fired looms over you and your co-workers. Your inner voice becomes more critical and less optimistic with each passing day. Working here can be injuring your ability to enjoy life.
I have only had two Bad Bosses and they were top notch ones. Mine were the lying, backstabbing, and the demeaning variety. Each morning I would have to run to the bathroom upon entering the office. I got headaches, nightmares, dizziness, and flashbacks of encounters with these monsters. I watched helplessly as they took out their negativity and bad traits on others until it was my time. Being in my 20’s I had not yet developed my skill set to deal with these people.
I love helping people. The boss would give me one task. Once completed they would say, “I wanted this done, why did you do that?” At times I thought I was losing my mind. Running on empty, I was feeling alone and isolated. I sought counseling and was informed that I had situational stress and as long as I was in that situation I would have stress. This is not what I wanted to hear. So I decided there must be a third option.
This option took me on an odyssey into the world of visualization, yoga, self hypnosis, positive thoughts, and color breathing. I learned how to lower my stress and be calm with unreasonable people. These techniques and habits served me well then, as well as throughout the years. I stayed in that job 8 1/2 years and left on my own terms to travel and study.
Here are a few tips and strategies to deal with Bad Bosses
These techniques take time to learn and practice to feel more comfortable. I learned that before going into work I needed to have a list of my accomplishments and positive traits in my car and one in in my purse. I would take several deep breaths and recall one trait or accomplishment at a time, filling up fully with these thoughts. Then get into the feeling of seeing the day being better and calmer. I always kept the big picture in mind that what I was doing is something that contributes to my purpose at work.
I would rehearse what I would say to each person and sometimes just saying, “Yes” was the easiest. Knowing this was the best way to deal with the unreasonable and helped feeling that I was not being true to myself.
These are the actual techniques I used
I. I would see a clear and distinct boundary between the boss and myself as I walked in.
3. I saw the boss growing smaller and their voice getting quieter.
4. Having pictures of funny jokes in my center drawer lifted me up any time I opened the drawer and helped greatly.
My health and sanity was saved by these simple steps taken daily. This will help you greatly while you proceed to do your work and keep your productivity up. Laugh more and enjoy friends and family.
I would love to hear how these tips worked for you.
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