A Bad Boss Can Make You Sick

Are you working for a Bad Boss? 

A few of the traits a bad boss shares are mean, dishonest, lying, cruel, aggressive, selfish, and demeaning.  Boundaries are not a concept they understand.  They build walls, not bridges.  Team building does not exist, except for fear.

Can you say trauma?  You are in a war zone and it is called the workplace.  Ongoing trauma on your job has a cumulative effect.  You can be suffering from PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

The daily stress of working for these people can take a terrible toll on your relationships, and mental and physical health.  It makes it nearly impossible to concentrate and complete projects.  You get headaches, dizziness, chest pains, flashbacks, and then tense and keyed up.  You start to avoid people and relationships.  These are a few of the symptoms.  If you suffer any of these for longer than a month, see a professional.

The atmosphere of the workplace is heavy, depressive, and oppressive.  The fear of being humiliated or fired looms over you and your co-workers.  Your inner voice becomes more critical and less optimistic with each passing day.  Working here can be injuring your ability to enjoy life.

My experience with a Bad Boss

I have only had two bad bosses and they were top-notch ones.  Mine were the lying, backstabbing, and demeaning variety.  Each morning I would have to run to the bathroom upon entering the office.  I got headaches, nightmares, dizziness, and flashbacks of encounters with these monsters.  I watched helplessly as they took out their negativity and bad traits on others until it was my time.  Being in my 20s, I had not yet developed my skill set to deal with these people.

The boss would give me one task.  Once completed he would say, “I wanted this done this way.  Why did you do that?” – at times I thought I was losing my mind.  Running on empty, I was feeling alone and isolated.  I sought counseling and was informed that I had situational stress and as long as I was in that situation I would have stress.  This is not what I wanted to hear.  So I decided there must be a third option.

This option took me on an odyssey into the world of visualization, yoga, self-hypnosis, positive thoughts, and color breathing.  I learned how to lower my stress and be calm with unreasonable people.  These techniques and habits served me well then, as well as throughout the years.  I stayed in that job for over 8 years and left on my own terms to travel and study.

Tips and strategies to deal with a Bad Boss

These techniques take time to learn and practice to feel more comfortable.  I learned that before going to work I needed to have a list of my accomplishments and positive traits in my car and one in my purse.  I would take several deep breaths and recall one trait or accomplishment at a time, filling up fully with these thoughts – then get into the feeling of seeing the day being better and calmer.  I always kept the big picture in mind that what I was doing is something that contributes to my purpose at work.

I would rehearse what I would say to each person and sometimes and just saying, “Yes” was the easiest.  Knowing this was the best way to deal with the unreasonable and helped me to feel that I was not being true to myself.

These are 4 techniques I used:

I.  I saw a clear and distinct boundary between the boss and myself as I walked in.

2.  I saw myself and my desk surrounded by a golden light and saw whatever insults the boss would fire at me would bounce off and fall to the ground.  I liked to add a sound like “Thunk”!

3.  I saw the boss growing smaller and their voice getting quieter.

4.  Having pictures of funny jokes in my center drawer helped greatly and lifted me up any time I opened the drawer.

My health and sanity were saved by taking these simple daily steps.  This will help you greatly while you proceed to do your work and keep your productivity up.  Laugh more and enjoy friends and family.

I would love to hear how these tips worked for you.

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Reducing Stress with Feng Shui

Feng Shui Reduces Stress

Reduce Stress With Feng Shui

Reducing Stress with Feng Shu

This is one of the beautiful things about Feng Shui.   Stress is reduced by creating balance with harmony and flow.

The 5 Elements of Feng Shui are Water, Wood, Fire, Earth, and Metal

This time of the year brings out the urge to do cleaning, reorganize, or just plain purge our homes, patios, garages, and yards of too much stuff.  What do I do?  Where do I even begin? – I close the door to the piles of things and sit down defeated even before beginning.  How many times have you walked into the living room and seen magazines, books, and shoes scattered about and felt instantly overwhelmed?

Clutter causes anxiety and inhibits concentration, focus, and carry-through.  Visual chaos creates emotional chaos.  Clutter takes you out of a peaceful place and all you see is what you have not accomplished.  You say, “I feel stress and more stress and don’t have time.”  These feelings do not help with self-esteem or weight loss, as I reach for a doughnut or a glass of wine, or whine.  Stress is oozing out your pores!  Here is an article on our sister website:  Reduce stress tips.

On the other hand, an orderly home creates harmony and balance and renews the family and those visiting, too. Look at your magazines, filled with pictures of calm and peace.

Creating flow and balance is an automatic de-stressor.

Imagine this:   Noise levels drop, you feel calmer and think more clearly, and even the kids and animals seem calmer.  The balance from a well-placed fountain helps with seeing more visual space and creates that space to breathe and relax.

Before we can change something, we need to know what we need or want to release.  Reducing stress is about creating a place of calm and peace, somewhere you can go and sit and just ‘be’ for a moment and let the worries and the world fade into the background.

Great news – it is not that hard to begin.  You do have “15 minutes at a time” to start.

Stop and stand to look around the room.  What draws your eye?  Does it keep you in focus?  Take a few notes.  Enjoy the process – you are learning about yourself and how to move from stress to peace.  Stress reduction is about the order, flowing from one space to another.

Here are a few things that you can do to start transforming your Environment:

Fountain Focal Point

Take a few photos of the room, and look closely at them.  The camera does not lie.    See-through that lens.  This technique also removes us from some of the emotions.  Just clearly see what the room is saying  – you can let things go to new homes.  Too much red, or metal in a room can tire you.  Too much beige or earth tones can feel like everything is in slow motion.  The camera will point out the colors to you and help to see balance.

1.  See what stands out most in the room.

Are there piles of magazines, too many colors?  Mismatched pieces, too many plants, hundreds of small things scattered around?  Not enough plants, no theme, is it noisy or too quiet?  Are there gifts from people you do not like or who betrayed you?  Is there no space for just quiet and calm?

2.  Acknowledge and forgive yourself.

Accept where you are now and see how the actions will improve the quality of your home for all.  The rewards will keep on giving.  Imagine what a room would be like with a fountain, a few plants, and a change of color.

3.  Supplies you will need:

Have a marking pen, cardboard boxes, trash bags, and if needed, the help of a friend to keep you going.

Have this mindset “I choose to do this now!”  Start at one corner and work around the room.  It may take a few times or if inspired you may continue until done.

  • Clear the piles first, then clean that space.
  • Then get a few boxes that are matched, in colors and designs you like. you can fill these with things you use daily.  I have one to keep my hand lotion, small inspirational books near me, and my favorite chair.
  • Remove the things you do not like.
  • Boxes labeled – Give away, Trash, Repair.  If you have not used it in 6 months release you and it.
  • Contact the neighbors or friends for a block garage sale.
  • Get the things out of the house as soon as possible.
  • Baskets to hold kids’ things, electronics, or books.
  • Groups like things together to make a collection.  Scattered around those same things become clutter and chaos.
  • Add a fountain to add some sounds from nature.
  • Plants like peace lily require little to no maintenance.

Many times we inherit things that do not go with our style of decorating and just sit in the attic, garage, or in the house.  These pieces can be a great enhancement when properly placed.  If you are one of the lucky ones who just who is happy with the place as it is.  Good for you.

I encourage you to embrace and learn more about the guiding principles of Feng Shui – and in just one day, you can start to bring a sense of balance and harmony to your home and outdoor patios.

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Feng Shui: Transform a Living Space into a Sanctuary

Transform a Living Space into a Sanctuary

Why is a sanctuary necessary?  A sanctuary is where your mind and body go for introspection, healing, exploring relationships, and creativity.

Ah, This Feels Good

Our living space is a sacred space, a sanctuary where we dream of a better future, recover from the day’s challenges, and a place to be nurtured healed, and relax.  This is a space to gather ourselves back into wholeness while we change from our daytime clothes to our comfortable clothes and mentally relinquish the cares of the day. Then we sink down into that peaceful place we have created and enjoy the benefits of the beauty of our sanctuary.  This is our nurturing place and space to feed the changes.

Increase Calm – Clear Clutter

Clutter is a disorder that causes anxiety and an inability to concentrate, focus, or carry through on projects.  Who needs a haunted house, where things go bump in the night?  How many times have you run into that same pair of shoes or books?  You say,  “I will get to it soon.”

It is easy to start the cleanup process with three bins – “Give-Away, Throw Away and Repair”.  Go around the room you want to turn into your sacred space.

Clutter takes you out of the peaceful place and all you see is what you have not done.  How can one relax with all those unfinished projects laying about?  Visual chaos creates emotional chaos.

Steps to Creating a Sanctuary

  1. What are you drawn to?  Spend some time looking and observing – what kind of setting are you drawn to?
  2. Get a clear idea of the kind of space you want for relaxing.  Create a vision for your sanctuary.
  3.  What kind of feeling are you trying to create to feed you – a mountain feel, a day at the beach, a meditation spot?
  4.  Use your favorite colors, textures, and pictures.
  5. What is important to you – is it sound, smells, plants, and music?
  • Sounds:  wind chimes, birds, fountains
  • Music:  classical, jazz, new age, rap
  • Plants:  desert, water plants, ferns, palms
  • Smells:  vanilla, jasmine, rose

Calming Plants

Plants Create a Peaceful Visual Focus

Order is a by-product of defined space.  Harmony and balance renew us and all the occupants of the home.  Those feelings inspire us to create a can-do feeling.

One of the guiding principles of Feng Shui is to bring the outside inside.  You will be amazed at the sense of balance and harmony a few plants bring to any place.  You can create more than one place to unwind and heal yourself – one inside and one outside.  Be creative – a garden or patio retreat for good weather and bad weather.

Feng Shui Presentation and Testimonial

WOODINVILLE, WA, (April 23, 2014) – Feng Shui is an ancient Chinese art and science which focuses on balancing the energy of a given space to achieve health and good fortune for the occupants.  Discover how easy it is to apply basic Feng Shui principles to your home and patio to bring tranquility, harmony, and balance. Darielle Archer, Holistic Health Practitioner and owner of The Positive Works will present a free seminar at Molbak’s Home + Garden. at Molbak’s.  Visit www.molbaks.com/

Here is a summary of my Feng Shui presentation about the flow between living rooms and patios at “Molbak’s Garden + Home” an article appearing in the Woodinville Weekly. 

A new client called and said, “How soon can you Feng Shui my house?” She was so excited and said, “I just visited a friend and was amazed about the transformation of her home and patio, from chaos to calm and sophisticated. Our homes are similar and decorating style as well.” 

She continued, “Walking from her living room to the patio I experienced that feeling of one continuous space without a sense of leaving one and entering another. It is as though the outside was brought in and the inside brought out. I experienced a discernible state of harmony and balance evident in nature.” Just a few days ago, she says, their home was chaos and overwhelm, everyone in the house was bickering with each other. 

My new client told me, “My family loves the new look and feel. I feel more balanced. 

Darielle does Feng Shui consultations:   

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Feng Shui in 15 Minutes

Feng Shui in 15 Minutes

The “Feng Shui in 15 Minutes” is a technique I have used for years with success to show clients, how to make a fast and easy change to any room.  As a Feng Shui specialist, I assure these clients that it is not only possible, but I have shown countless others how to accomplish these changes in their home.

Starting with small changes, done quickly, we gain confidence.  This enthusiasm is an added bonus to make some quick changes to your home.  You will have the momentum to get going and get more done.

Overcome the overwhelm

Clients have said “I’m overwhelmed!  Where-oh-where do I begin?”  I can hear their pain and confusion, as they look at the whole house.  Crestfallen and already defeated, they just stand there stunned.  How many have you stood in that room saying, “I hate how this room looks and feels!”

Often we are overwhelmed and have no idea where to begin.  These feelings stop many people from taking any action.  Again, I explain, “You can make a room feel warm and inviting!”  Keep reading — there are solutions to your dilemma.

What you see makes a difference

Seeing the clutter and unfinished projects day in and day out and several times a day has a cumulative effect.  These reminders of unfinished things have the ability to make you feel less than perfect.  Then you say, “I will get to it someday.”  But the indefinite time in the future ‘someday’ never comes.

Changing the color of a table runner or cushion can give a needed boost to your home.  Many changes can be done easily and in 15 Minutes.  First, look around the room – what do you imagine here?  Is the room too cold feeling, too cluttered, been the same way for years?

Small changes make an immediate impact!

 Himalayan Salt Lamp

Himalayan Salt Lamp

Adding a small Himalayan Salt Lamp to a corner makes an impact.  These lamps make a wonderful, soft nightlight in any room.  Kids love the soft glow, and it is good as a hallway light or to brighten a guest room.  Other benefits of salt lamps are that they are good air purifiers, in addition to being beautiful.  These lamps come in many shapes, sizes, and colors to fit any room decor.

Any time of the year is a good time to review your home and makeover your environment.  Motivation is easy when we have out-of-town guests coming, a special event, or a holiday.  After all, we are cleaning and clearing out things.  Use that energy to transform the guest bath, a hallway, or dining table.

Shop your home for those hidden treasures

Feng Shui in 15 Minutes, means you can shop your home for some amazing hidden treasures and forgotten pieces.  Take a walk around your home – look in those closets, in the garage, or attic.  Look at that unusual basket, cleaned up or painted to use to display guest soaps and toiletries.  You may have a small rug that does not go with the new bedroom colors, so repurpose it for the kitchen, bathroom, or hallway.  Those kitchen towels you received as a gift would look wonderful in the bathroom.

A couple of small lamps you picked up years ago can light a hallway or can be used in the kitchen.  What about that fabulous lamp that needs a newly updated shade?  Remember how you loved it, and relegated it to the garage because it needs a lampshade?  Can you picture reading under it in your bedroom or nook area?

Feng Shui in 15 Minutes Activity Steps:

  1.  View a room in which you want to make changes.
  2.  Choose one word to describe it – “dark” “cluttered” “cold”
  3.  Pick 2 words to describe what you would like it to be – “light” “uncluttered” “warm”
  4.  Shop your home with the feeling you want to create.

Let your imagination run freely.  These two words can give you the key you have needed to improve that room.

A few fabulous Feng Shui tips

Here are a few tips you can do easily to make noticeable changes and give your home a new look and feel.  Oh, those hidden treasures you found!  This is all you need to transform your rooms in minutes.

  • Rolled hand towels in a small basket look elegant and organized at the same time.
  • Use a beaded or satin curtain tie and wrap-around bath towels to really make an impact on your guests.
  • Clear off the dining room table and add a bright table runner.
  • Move your pictures around.
  • Put fresh flowers in a vase at the entrance or silk plant.

Feng Shui is Balance and Harmony

Feng Shui is about bringing harmony and balance to your home and its occupants.  Some of my clients have called me back after a consultation saying, “It feels so good!  The family is eating at the table again and we are all picking up after ourselves.”  Those comments make me feel happy and I am most honored to be allowed to show them how easy home can change from Ho-Hum to Wow!

Testimonial:                                                                                                                                                                                                                    “I asked Darielle to Feng Shui our house while assisting me with this project.  What she performed is an absolute miracle.  The entire project just flowed from one room to the next, creating collections and pockets of beauty everywhere you look, including a photo gallery and work studio which I absolutely love”.  Sherry, Snohomish, WA

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Affirmations Work

Affirmations Work

You can change your thinking and the results you get in your life with Affirmations, because Affirmations Work!

These Affirmations can be used daily before you get out of bed, as you shower, get dressed, or before walking into your office.

How to use these Affirmations:

  • Think of the affirmation.  Then imagine the feelings of the words.  Use these affirmations as a meditation throughout your day.
  • You will know when you have made a mind/body/spirit connection, as you will feel a release around the general area around the neck, shoulders, stomach, or a warm feeling in your chest.
  • Use the words “I” and for a powerful message, change it to “You” as though you are hearing the words we all crave to hear, from someone else.
  • Silently say the words to yourself.  This is the place where science and spirituality merge.
  • We have the technology in ourselves that proves that the heart generates more electrical output than the brain.
  • Daily affirmations before getting out of bed, will put a positive energizing feeling for the day.
  • Continue to do affirmations, throughout the day for health, family, success, and confidence, and watch your life change for the better.  The more you do them the quicker you will see results.
  • Affirmations change the brain from being wired negatively to being wired to a positive view and feelings.
  • Make cards or sticky notes using the affirmations.  Put them on the inside of cabinets, in your purse, office, or car.
  • These are just the first steps to using powerful affirmations to change your life.

Your Free Affirmations when you fill out the form (right side) on this page:

  1. Health
  2. Personal
  3. Wealth
  4. Success
  5. Career
  6. Relationships
  7. Children
  8. Travel
  9. Other people
  10. Safety
  11. Healing the World Daily

Contact Darielle online for more advanced techniques based on her many years of classes, workshops, and consulting in her private practice or book on Amazon: “The Thriving Code: A Guide for Healing and Energy Protection”

Email at Darielle@dariellearcher.com

Guided Imagery to Ease Stress and Promote Relaxation

Guided Imagery to Ease Stress and Promote Relaxation

Use the mind to relieve pain. It is increasingly taken for granted today, but in the 1970s it was a provocative notion to suggest a connection between the mind and the body to fight the effects of cancer – if anyone spoke of cancer at all.

The conventional wisdom until then was that cancer was a death sentence, painful and slow and that all medical science could do was go through the motions to ease the suffering.  But curiosity about why some patients with similar cancers and similar treatments responded differently led to a conclusion that those with a more positive outlook tended to respond better to treatment and went on to live longer, with fewer side effects.

The discovery was more stunning at the time because it came from a recognized, reputable member of mainstream medicine, radiation oncologist, Dr. Carl Simonton, who went on to say that feelings of hopelessness actually contributed to a hastier death, and those who offered patients no hope of survival or recovery were part of the problem.

Simonton added elements of meditation and emotional support to a cancer treatment program at Travis Air Force Base in California in the early 1970s and a few years later at a research and counseling center, he founded in Fort Worth.  He felt – and insisted he could demonstrate – that meditation and emotional support gave patients more of a sense of control over their cancer.

His work was instrumental in the development of what is now referred to as Guided Imagery.  He taught his own patients to visualize their bodies in a literal war with cancer, cell by cell – and winning.  Guided imagery, or mental imagery, is widely accepted and used now to manage the side effects of cancer, specifically tension, blood pressure, and pain.

Guided Imagery Helps Manage Pain and Relaxation

Researchers in Southern California say they’ve concluded that while fear and stress don’t cause pain, they can amplify it, and the reduction of tension in the body can reduce its effects.  They also maintain lower tension and can also boost the body’s immune system.  The research, they say, shows that pleasing images created in the imagination in one part of the brain can actually ease chronic pain in another part of the brain and that in some patients the imaginary image is so strong the brain believes it to be real.

The images themselves are created by the patient, who is ‘guided’ into a physically relaxed state where all of the senses are used – to see every detail of the scene, smell all of the aromas, and hear all of the sounds.  Patients can be taught to guide themselves into relaxation, deeper and quicker each time with practice, and stay as long as they want to escape the stressors on the body.

Reservations about guided imagery remain, as some people have a lingering resistance to hypnosis in the mistaken belief they will walk down the street clucking like a chicken.  Guided imagery and hypnosis both focus the mind while it is in a state of relaxation, and while guided imagery works in a hypnotic state it does not use hypnosis as such.

Whether it is meditation, guided meditation, guided imagery, or self-hypnosis, it is perfectly natural and completely safe.

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Darielle Archer, CH, CHC, CNLP

Guided Imagery Helps Patients Cope With Cancer

Guided Imagery Minimizes the Side Effects Of Cancer 

Guided Imagery helps cancer patients cope with cancer.  Recent refinements in the application of Guided Imagery have made the lives of cancer patients much easier to endure.

Several years of studies in the United States, Britain, and Korea, have shown that Stage 1 and Stage 2 breast cancer patients can increase the number of “killer cells” of the body’s own cells that seek and destroy cancer cells, by reducing stress and anxiety.

Patients who used guided imagery in addition to chemotherapy report better quality of life.

The patients who also used guided imagery with progressive muscle relaxation training during six-month courses of chemotherapy had less nausea and were less anxious and depressed.  Follow-ups showed the effects of guided imagery lasted months beyond the chemotherapy treatment.

The late Dr. Oscar Carl Simonton, a radiation oncologist, studied the mind-body connection in cancer treatment.  He found that advanced breast cancer patients who used guided imagery and had a positive mental outlook tended to survive longer with a better quality of life than those who did not.  And patients who received counseling reported a stronger feeling of more control over their bodies and their treatment.

Simonton went so far as to warn against those who say there is no hope, calling them “hazardous to your health”.  Later research with similar findings helped push guided imagery into mainstream medicine.

Guided Imagery with a therapist is usually done in sessions that last 20 to 30 minutes.  The therapist guides the patient to create mental images that promote relaxation, peace, and safety and may ask a patient to “see” his or her body at war with cancer – and winning.

There are no known risks in the use of guided imagery.

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See my book on Amazon: “The Thriving Code: A Guide For Healing and Energy Protection”.                                                This book gives you a step-by-step powerful handbook filled with techniques to solve your problems with negative people and situations.  


Pet Loss, Grief and Hypnosis

Pet Loss and Pet Grief is Hard

The sudden pet loss of a beloved companion can especially result in mild to severe pet grief and can linger for a long time.

These sad feelings can affect the whole family.

Generally, it is the memories and smells that trigger our feelings of loss, like the loving eyes that greeted us at the door eagerly awaiting our return.  There is a special language between a pet and owner that knows no boundaries other than love – pure, loving, and constant.

The closeness is what we come to know and appreciate and even depend on.  Pets not only give us unconditional love and acceptance, but they can also lower our blood pressure and fill emotional voids and keep us company.

Hypnosis and Guided Imagery can assist this grieving process and help us regain balance again.

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See my book on Amazon: “The Thriving Code: A Guide For Healing and Energy Protection”            This book gives you a step-by-step powerful handbook filled with techniques to solve your problems with negative people and situations. Look for the section on “Protecting” your pets.


The Mastery of Moving Forward

The Mastery of Moving Forward

Guided Imagery and Life Coaching can help you move forward.  Guided Imagery can eliminate the blocks in your way.  Now is the time to start moving forward.


How does one move forward? 

  • Start from where you are.
  • Ask yourself, how did I get here?
  • Where do I want to go?

Moving forward is a state of mind with action.  Many people are paralyzed, stuck in fear, worry, regret and hurt.  Living in survival is no fun.  Learn how to begin eliminating the blocks that prevent movement.  It does take time and effort.  You are worth it.

Begin the process now – the sooner you get moving, the sooner you start receiving the benefits.

You can consult with Darielle and she will help you discover the areas that can be touched with Life Coaching and Guided Imagery.

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See my book on Amazon: “The Thriving Code: A Guide For Healing and Energy Protection”                    This book gives you a step-by-step powerful handbook filled with techniques to solve your problems with negative people and situations to help you move forward. 


Welcome to “The Positive Works”

Welcome to “The Positive Works

Learn positive ways to defuse negative situations in everyday life. Disarm negative bosses,  in-laws, groups and energy vampires. A positive mindset does work add some coaching and you have a winning combination.

Take control of your thoughts, beliefs, and actions to improve your world.  I am Darielle (Dariel Roskie Archer), and my training allows me to have accurate insights into your challenges so that you can decide the most appropriate actions to take. This is not the sweet ‘meditate until you manifest it’  work. We work to discover your blocks, strengths, areas needed for growth and strategic steps taken daily to accomplish your goals. You have to commit to taking the actions consistently necessary to make your dreams a reality.

Discover how to:

  • Know what to do – and not to do in situations that involve negative people and places
  • Use colors to boost your energy
  • Discover how to use  gemstones for protection

Be sure to check out my book “The Thriving Code:  A Guide For Healing and Energy Protection”

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