It’s Okay Not To Be Okay
You know those days – like when you step out of bed into something wet, discovering it is kitty barf! This is after having a nice and grateful wake-up time. You stand there with the barf on your foot as you hop to the bathroom to wash it off.
Then there is the sound of the phone ringing at O-dark-hundred and a voice at the other end in a panic, “We have to get that project done now and come to work!” This comes from a person you resent and feel they are less qualified — and you are always bailing them out. Do not gloss over that frustration.
It’s okay to feel those feelings. We are conditioned to think that having downtime and funky feelings are not okay. That is not true!
Make your stumbles part of your dance, not the story of your life.
Timeouts and stumbles
Timeouts are a necessary part of growing. Your emotions and brain need a break to assimilate new information. The overload can result in a meltdown when we have continual uploads and new information without taking a breath. STOP and take a break.
I love checklists; they are easy to read and filled with ideas. Here is a helpful checklist for taking a break:
- Sit in your jammies.
- Eat your ice cream.
- People watch at the mall or cafe.
- Binge-watch for a day.
- Hug your furry companion.
- Dance to your favorite music.
- Go to the beach.
- Take a walk.
- Call an old friend.
- Visit your favorite art gallery.
- Explore a new place for the day.
Just give yourself permission to sit for a bit. I find inspiration returns quickly when I do that. During these timeouts, we have the opportunity to step back and try a new approach. Let it be the opposite of what you previously tried. There are times when we feel like we have failed through no fault of our own. Yet that setback becomes part of your story of loss and lack. Challenge that; it is a setback, not your life story. Breaks allow you to see clearly and then transformation begins.
After resting – go back to the beginning
Resting and going back to the beginning is an often overlooked opportunity. Our overworked brains can miss important details of a situation. The psychological distance can trigger unseen solutions. Seize this time to overhaul the project and generate as many new ideas as possible.
Before I took a break, I felt anxious, overwhelmed, and frustrated, and then trying harder and faster to get things done did the reverse. That was not a fun experience, and I thought, “Where’s my edge and insight now? I’m tired.” I sigh and take a walk to the park.
Many times after taking a break, it has profoundly impacted my planning and writing. My spirit is renewed, my insights are keener, and I enjoy a deeper connection to people. Open communication with yourself invites others with that same benefit. Wouldn’t it be nice if we knew and believed in ourselves?
Put regular breaks into your schedule and make “me time” a priority. Enjoy the benefits.
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